Mag Luv: Frank Ocean says, ‘The Night I Posted It, I Cried Like A F-cking Baby’

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Mag Luv: Frank Ocean says, ‘The Night I Posted It, I Cried Like A F-cking Baby’

A week before Channel Orange was dropped, Frank Ocean posted an open letter to his tumblr page  detailing his first experience with love  –which happened to be with a man. The reaction from the industry and fans ranged from labeling his move as heroic to some while others felt this was all a publicity stunt or marketing ploy to sell records.

In a recent GQ feature, Frank gets candid while telling the publication  exactly why he felt it was necessary to be open about his sexuality.  He also  discussed his fears, how he thought it would affect his career and whether or  not he’s checking for the ladies at all.

Peep the excerpts:

On Why He Wrote the Open Letter on Tumblr I had Skyped  into a listening session that Def Jam was hosting for Channel Orange, and one of  the journalists, very harmlessly—quotation gestures in  the air, “very harmlessly”—wrote a piece and mentioned that. I was just  like, “F-ck it. Talk about it, don’t talk about it—talk  about this.” No more mystery. Through with that.

The night I posted it, I cried like a f-cking baby. It was like all the frequency just clicked to a change in my head. All the receptors were now  receiving a different signal, and I was happy. I hadn’t been happy in so long.  I’ve been sad again since, but it’s a totally different take on sad. There’s  just some magic in truth and honesty and openness.

On His Fears About Coming Out I had those fears. In  black music, we’ve got so many leaps and bounds to make with acceptance and  tolerance in regard to that issue. It reflects something just ingrained, you  know. When I was growing up, there was nobody in my family—not even my  mother—who I could look to and be like, “I know you’ve never said anything  homophobic.” So, you know, you worry about people in the business who you’ve heard talk that way. Some of my heroes coming up talk recklessly like  that. It’s tempting to give those views and words—that ignorance—more attention  than they deserve. Very tempting.

On why he felt as though he couldn’t keep it a secret or be on the  DL The pitch is, “You’ll encounter less resistance in life if you  say, ‘No, I’m going to just keep dating girls.’ ” But then you’re minimizing the  resistance that you’re feeling from yourself on the inside. There’s so much  upkeep on that sh-t. So much upkeep on a lie. But at least everybody else is  cool with how you carry on with your life. That’s what they say. But know what  fear does to your strength. You don’t even feel smart or capable. You just feel  broken—and not just your heart. Just a broken person.

On If He’s Bisexual You can move to the next question.  I’ll respectfully say that life is dynamic and comes along with dynamic  experiences, and the same sentiment that I have towards genres of music, I have  towards a lot of labels and boxes and sh-t. I’m in this business to be  creative—I’ll even diminish it and say to be a content provider. One of the  pieces of content that I’m for f-ck sure not giving is porn videos. I’m not a  centerfold. I’m not trying to sell you sex. People should pay attention to that  in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people  realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about  romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same sh-t. As a writer, as a  creator, I’m giving you my experiences. But just take what I give you. You ain’t  got to pry beyond that. I’m giving you what I feel like you can feel. The other  sh-t, you can’t feel. You can’t feel a box. You can’t feel a label. Don’t get  caught up in that sh-t. There’s so much something in life. Don’t get caught up  in the nothing. That sh-t is nothing, you know? It’s nothing. Vanish the  fear.



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  1. UnsungHipHop.Com December 2 at 3:55 pm - Reply

    Very interesting post….(UnsungHipHop.Com)

  2. djdoleak December 3 at 9:21 am - Reply

    Frank ocean is the man. S.R.

  3. Kia Soto December 3 at 3:21 pm - Reply

    Frank Ocean is talented!!

  4. Kia Soto December 6 at 9:56 am - Reply


    • montannathagrupie December 6 at 10:27 am - Reply

      In a “normal” situation most women wouldn’t but the fact he is a celebrity i’m sure females will be throwing it to him!

  5. djeternity December 7 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    The music is all that matters to me

  6. djdoleak December 16 at 8:22 am - Reply

    dope. S.R.

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